He Hates Condoms, But I Hate Birth Control. Now What?
Okay, I need to get this off my chest before I explode. So, I’ve been seeing this woman for four months—she’s 34, I’m 26—and I swear, every time things get steamy, she brings up how much she hates condoms. Like, I get it, they’re not fun, but she keeps hinting (not so subtly) that I should get a vasectomy or go on some kind of male birth control. The first time, I told her straight up: my body, my choice, and I’m not messing with my hormones or getting surgery just because she doesn’t like the feel of latex. She said she understood, but then a couple months later, she’s sending me links to clinics and articles about ‘painless’ procedures.
Last time, right after sex, she literally said, “That was amazing, but I wish you’d just get snipped already.” Like, what?! I told her again, I’m not comfortable, and she dropped it, but now I can’t stop thinking about it. Is this normal? Am I being a jerk for not wanting to mess with my body, or is she crossing a line? I feel like I’m losing my mind here. Someone tell me I’m not crazy.
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