what do you do when your partner yells at the kids?

We’ve been together 11 years, married for 9, and now raising 2 kids. Since our second child, things have been rough—especially around parenting. My husband loses patience easily and yells a lot. He regrets it after, but never changes. I try to talk to him, share things I’ve learned, but he gets defensive or angry. Now the kids come to me for everything, and he feels hurt, lashes out more, says awful things like they’d be better off without him. It breaks my heart. I feel stuck. I can’t force him to be a different father. But what does that leave me with? #parentingstruggles #relationshipadvice #momlife