Struggling to leave my single mom for a new life abroad​

I’m 34, an only child, and my mom is 64. She’s a single mom, and in our Asian culture, it’s expected that the youngest son stays to care for aging parents. But I’m also LGBTQ+, and coming out to her two years ago didn’t go well. She acted shocked and hasn’t acknowledged it since, though she still occasionally brings up marriage and kids. I’ve decided to move to a Western country next year to find happiness and a partner. I don’t plan to return. But I’m torn about when to tell her. Should I give her months to prepare, or just tell her on the day I leave? I’m afraid she might react badly—possibly even try to hurt me physically to stop me from leaving. I know it sounds extreme, but I can’t shake the fear. I don’t want to risk my safety, but I also don’t want to keep lying to her. Any advice on how to handle this? I can’t talk to friends or relatives about this, so I really need some external perspective. #FamilyConflict #LGBTQ+ #CulturalExpectations #MovingAbroad #ParentChildRelationship #RomanticRelationships