When Caregiving Turns Into Loneliness: My Fiancé and I Drift Apart

Ever feel like you’re carrying the weight of a relationship on your own shoulders? That’s me, 32, engaged to my partner for three years, and lately, I feel more like a caretaker than a fiancé. When we met, we were both smokers and a little overweight, but I quit and tried to get healthier. He, on the other hand, slipped back into old habits, and now the smell of smoke is so strong we sleep in separate rooms. After his cancer diagnosis, I did everything—bills, cleaning, even his wound care. Now he’s recovered, but nothing’s changed. I still remind his about appointments, handle all the chores, and pay the bills. Intimacy? Gone. Attraction? Fading. I’m exhausted, but every time I bring it up, it turns into a fight. Am I wrong for wanting more, or just tired of being the only one trying? Sometimes I wonder if surviving cancer should’ve changed things, but here we are. Ever felt invisible in your own relationship? 😔 #relationshipstruggles #caregiverfatigue #emotionaldistance #intimacyissues #RomanticRelationships