Can I ignore his quirks and continue living with him?😅

Four years together, no kids, and my husband seems to have less interest in sex than he does in picking out socks. At home, we’re lucky if it happens once a month, and vacations? Forget it—he’s asleep before I can even hint at romance. I’ve ruled out all the usual suspects: stress, low libido, relationship drama. Our only fight is about this! What really confuses me is his past—strip clubs, lap dances, and a secret porn habit. He promised to stop, but nothing changed. When I try to talk about it, he blames our relationship or says he feels pressured. Last time I suggested intimacy on a trip, he got upset and said I was ruining the night. I’m left wondering: is he asexual, hiding something, or just not that into me? I love him, but I’m stuck in this mystery. Has anyone else felt this lost in their marriage? Please, tell me I’m not alone. 💔 #MarriageStruggles #RelationshipMystery #IntimacyIssues #FamilyRelationships