SunbeamSirenMy father said that I was born to pay off his debts 😅🤯
Ever since I started earning, my parents have turned into my biggest challenge. My dad, who retired last year with three loans and no savings, expects me to send him $1,500 every month. When I said I couldn’t afford it, the emotional blackmail started: "We raised you, paid for your education, you owe us!" I tried to help as much as I could, but I had to move out for my sanity. Now, I want to pursue my master’s abroad, but the guilt and fear of leaving them behind is eating me alive. My dad’s job search has gone nowhere, and I feel trapped between my future and their needs. How do I trust that my choices won’t destroy my family? Am I selfish for wanting my own life? Please, I need advice. Sometimes I wonder if anyone else feels this torn between love and freedom. 😩🤔😵💫 #FamilyDrama #TrustIssues #LifeChoices #RomanticRelationships
2025-05-30
April Holley
When your parents decided to have a child the next 18 years became their responsibility, not yours. You do NOT owe them anything for having you. IF you want to help it's one thing, or they were sick another but, you own them nothing. Move on with your life.
05-30
Greensboro, NC
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Abigail Jones
that is your parents' problem....not yours. leave, go abroad, live your own life. you have a whole lot of years n go n enjoy them. don't fall for the emotional blackmail. move out now!!!
05-30
Tulsa, OK
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bobijo artstreeps
You are nor responsible for them. They are adults and responsible for themselves. "We feed, clothed, and educated you!" Uh, DUH! They legally had to or they could have been arrested for child abuse! Go get your Masters, enjoy it, and let them twist in the wind.
05-30
Leavittsburg, OH
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Chara the ditermined
they gave birth to you. They were supposed to raise you, they created you. The only thing you owe them is to be better than them.
05-31
Fayetteville, NC
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blue faery
When parents say stuff like that it's wrong. I have 5 brothers and sisters, my mother chose to say to me that she knows I was born to take care of her in her old age.
I feel like everyone needs to take turns to care for her when necessary.
Is that wrong to feel that way? I feel like a guilt trip from my mom.
05-30
Loves Park, IL
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Sean Wisecarver
My father abandoned his first family and later when most of his new family were in the bottle and drugs he truly thought it was my responsibility to take over the family and straighten them out as I supported them. It was the last phone call I took from him. I sometimes wonder if he figured out why I ghosted him.
05-30
Velarde, NM
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Mimi1220
You are not destroying your family your dad is. Are you an only child? If no, tell him to ask the others for their share now. If yes, they are not your responsibility. It’s your time to get an education, find a spouse and have children of your own. If at anytime in the future you have the financial stability and willingness 💕to help then do so. Tell your father to stop being picky about where he’s applying for jobs. There are plenty just maybe not what he wants to do. If both your parents get jobs they figure it out. National Debt relief can help them get out of debt. Don’t let them guilt you. Better yourself get your masters pay your bills. You got this.
05-30
Raynham, MA
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Guest
Your father made the choice to take out those loans. It is his responsibility alone to take care of it. Your father has no business putting that kind of pressure on you. Go pursue your education, your father will find a way of taking care of his debt himself.
05-31
Bethlehem, PA
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Bobbi Zeider
tell your Dad that you didn't ask to be.born so that does.not allow him to WANT to get ANY of.your money. do not listen to him unless you live in his.house.
05-30
Goshen, IN
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Liverhead
You don't know your parents any money.
tell your dad if he needs more money he needs to go find work. it's not your responsibility to pay your parents bills. your parents should have planned ahead and had savings and income coming in if they're going to retire or quit their jobs.
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