how planting poppies brought back my childhood summers

Last week, as I watched my grandkids chasing butterflies in the backyard, I felt a sudden urge to fill my garden with the same wildflowers my mother once grew—poppies, chrysanthemums, and gaillardias. I remember those endless summer afternoons, my hands in the dirt beside hers, learning the patience and hope that comes with every seed. But times have changed. My neighbors, younger and busier, prefer neat lawns and store-bought blooms, scoffing at my wild, tangled beds. They say native flowers look messy, but to me, they’re a living memory, a patchwork of family and healing. Some in our community argue that these old-fashioned gardens waste water or attract too many bees, while others—like me—see them as a refuge, especially as our region faces hotter, drier summers. I’ll admit, gardening hasn’t just been about nostalgia. It’s helped me cope with my drinking, giving me something to nurture instead of numb. Every time I see a poppy bloom, I feel a little more whole, a little more connected to both my past and my future. Maybe the younger folks will never understand why I plant thousands of seeds each spring, but for me, it’s about more than flowers—it’s about roots, resilience, and the stories we pass down. #gardeningmemories #intergenerationaldebate #wildflowers #Gardening