18 Years Together, 5 Kids, and My Marriage Is Falling Apart! 😭

Get a babysitter and go out on a date every payday. You were a couple before you were parents. Take time for each other. It doesn't have to be expensive it could be a walk in a park, a picnic or whatever where it's just the 2 of you. Leave your cellphone in you pocket or purse for emergencies ONLY.

You have grown apart due to outside forces, either plan alone time, seek couples therapy, which is kind of alone time, or get the BIG D, no, the other D.

you aren't having any fun together. Can you go on an adventure together. A memorable trip across Europe. If it's not too late try to have some fun together

the writing might already be on the wall. if he doesn't believe in couples counseling or therapy and he has no constuctive suggestions on what to do to stay together, then he's given up. a relationship takes two committed people not just one. obviously you say you each love one another so that's not the problem. so unless he's willing to be as invested as you are on what the problems are and coming up with solutions, it's never going to work. good luck

Go to counseling for your own well being. Raising five kids is enough without the stress of daily arguments.

maybe its time for counseling .

I don't know here ? I never got married & I never had any kids. first, I think their should be a "Truce" between you & your husband. sounds like if both of you's are speaking the same language by arguing but no one is paying attention to the other person. that needs to stop immediately ! I would make a mental/ written list on what the problems are, what my spouse wants me to do Not to do to change. both sides needs to be mature, civil & Not only here each other but to listen & pay attention to each other's hurt, complaints, needs etc. 2ND. all of the In- Laws has to go. you cannot let the In- Laws get inside your marriage. 3rd you guys need some type of an agreement & infrastructure " Budgeting" on how to manage your finances for you & the family & last but Not least is to try to find that love that you guys lost within being together for 18 years. & if that doesn't work, perhaps some counseling ? good luck & God bless.🙏

let me tell you, some grown men are just like babies, if you don't give them the attention you give those kids they will stray and we'll get that attention somewhere else. these are selfish inconsiderate men that think of themselves only, they miss being baby before the babies came. anyway this is what happened to me, I had my babies, less attention, start a string, started having affairs, and the rest was history. We ended up getting a divorce, he continues with this silly Life style. I don't know if I was to blame on this one, because I baby the heck out of him before the babies came and he couldn't deal with that.

#1 DEMAND that any in-laws stay OUT of your relationship and STOP saying bad things about each other to in-laws. While YOU might forgive, THEY won't. It's supposed to be you two versus the world, so, you both need to close ranks and defend each other to the in-laws. Shut them down if they express negative opinions, but my suspicion is that the in-laws are meddling because you two have said bad things about each other to family members. #2 Combine your finances completely. Your marriage should be a "going concern." Bills need to be paid, and they should be paid by a join account that contains ALL your income. There's ZERO reason for any couple to be fighting about money unless someone is selfishly overspending and undermining the ability to pay bills and spending for the best interests of the collective. #3 Choose not to fight and to stay together. You two have children together. Inevitably, divorce will be bad for your kids.

Girl,you 2 need a getaway! If getting someone to care for your kids is not an option, it can still be done. Can't afford a vacation? Plan a camping trip,and I mean PLAN. Maybe to a lake or mountains. Get OFF the fucking grid. A little fishing, hiking, biking or even horse shoes. You don't need freaking Disney World! No matter where you are,you have to eat. The key is into the planning. If you take the kids,PLAN,maybe water toys. Kids love campfires! If you don't have equipment, BORROW. We camped in the mountains, we had plenty of equipment were we'd acquired over the yrs. Once,we took 8 kids,nieces & nephews, we had 1 daughter. They were all teenagers! Camped next to the river,borrowed extra coolers & tents. We had intertubes that the kids pushed together never sleeping in the tents. 4 days,$400. Most was grocerys. Swimming, hiking, tubing,even frog races at night. Every morning when we got up those kids were in a pile like a titter of pups!