He walks past the mailbox like it’s decoration. When I check it, there’s always something with “URGENT” stamped across the front. That’s our financial dynamic in a nutshell. When we got married, I let him take the lead. He earned more, made big decisions, and I thought that was normal. Until the day I opened a credit card bill he’d been ignoring — $12,000. All spent on God knows what. That was my wake-up call. I started tracking everything — the groceries, the subscriptions he forgot, the 3 streaming services we didn’t even use. I created a shared Google Sheet. He never opened it. So I built my own system. I got a high-yield savings account. I started a sinking fund for our next car. I transferred the emergency fund to a bank only I could access — not to be sneaky, but because someone needed to be the adult here. He jokes I’m a “money control freak.” I prefer “financially literate.” He may not ask how the bills get paid. But if one day he walks out, I’ll still be standing — and solvent. #Finance #MakeMoney #Marriage