How I Keep My Cool When Family Throws Shade
Last Thanksgiving, I was halfway through my mashed potatoes when my aunt tossed out, “Promotion, huh? Must be nice to be so lucky!”
I wanted to disappear into the gravy right then and there.
Here’s what’s actually helped me stay sane at the table:
• Spot the shade: If something sounds sweet but feels off, I trust my gut and notice it.
• Stay chill: I try not to get sucked into the drama—calm is my new superpower.
• Call it out (gently): Sometimes I’ll say, “Ouch, that kinda stung. Everything good?” It’s awkward, but it usually resets the vibe.
• Set limits: If the digs keep coming, I give myself permission to step away. No guilt, just dessert.
Her weird vibes? Not my circus, not my pie. I’m just here for the sweets.
Ever had to dodge family shade? What’s your move?
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