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I Think I Might Ruin My Social Life By Joining the HOA.
We moved into a new community with an HOA last year. Since we had never lived with one before, my spouse joked that if you can't beat them, join them. So I ended up as the Vice President of the board. Now here is the weird part. Since I joined the board, we have not enforced a single rule. Seriously. I have not said a word to anyone. But now, it feels like half the street avoids me. They will have block parties and social events and I never even find out about them. I feel completely excluded. My spouse thinks it is because I am on the HOA board. But I do not understand that. How can just having the title make me an outcast. It is not like I am a rule-enforcing tyrant. I am curious to hear if anyone has experienced anything like this. #HOA #NeighborhoodDrama #SocialLife #Community #Ostracized #HelpNeeded #Discussion #Advice #SocialAnxiety
4 days ago
Hundred Lunar
The members believe that you are lulling them into a false sense of security in order to drop the hammer on the whole neighborhood at once for your own twisted pleasure. You will eventually have to enforce something, or mediate a dispute at some time, and after that, you will have to constantly look over your shoulder for the vengeance seeking members, and the members that would use you as their own personal weapon in their disputes with other members. If you choose to continue with the HOA board, you will eventually transform into a loathsome creature who forever wanders the neighborhood with a tape measure, a list of permissible house paint colors, and a camera to take pictures of stuff that you know is wrong somehow, but can't put your finger on it right this minute. You will become an addict to the immense power you wield. Your social interactions will consist of people who want to curry favor from you, or those that wish you were dead.
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Stevens Point, WI
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