is it fair to go on sibling trips without my husband?
Every year, my siblings and I plan these little getaways—just us, no spouses, no kids. With five siblings, it’s a rare chance to catch up, laugh about old times, and just be together like we used to. My husband, though, isn’t thrilled. He says he’s left behind to “grind” while I’m off having fun, and honestly, I get where he’s coming from. We have two kids, and solo parenting is no joke. But here’s the thing: his relationship with his brother isn’t close, so he never does these kinds of trips himself. I’ve offered to switch places—let him go off and relax while I stay home—but he’s just not interested. Sometimes I feel guilty, especially when he points out that he’s not invited and I’m off enjoying time with my family. But if I don’t go, I barely see my siblings, and these trips mean a lot to me. Plus, my brother covers most of the costs, so it’s hard to say no. Am I being selfish for wanting this time with my siblings, or is it unfair for him to expect me to miss out just because he doesn’t have the same family dynamic? I can’t help but feel torn every time I pack my bag.
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