I’m the Only Non-American in My Bridal Party. I Didn’t Realize My Culture Could Offend Them.
I’m the only first-gen immigrant in my bridal party—and recently I found out how deep cultural gaps can go.
I was born and raised in the U.S., but my parents are from Southern Europe. In our culture, wedding gifts are always money. Guests line up before the reception, hand the couple an envelope, wish them well, and it’s totally normal. It helps the couple start fresh—rent, furniture, sometimes even a honeymoon.
So when one of my bridesmaids asked about my registry, I casually said, “Oh, we don’t do registries—we just do cards with cash.” The room fell silent. Another bridesmaid laughed awkwardly and said, “So you just want money from everyone?”
I froze. I hadn’t realized how weird it might sound in an American context. I tried explaining it’s a tradition—one meant to support, not demand—but I could tell they felt uncomfortable.
I felt like a foreigner in my own bridal party.
We’ve since cleared the air. But now I know: even the most joyful plans can carry unexpected cultural weight.
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