You Cannot Be 'Friends' With Your Students
No one tells you how lonely teaching can get. They say, "Be approachable, be kind," but no one warns you about the line you’re supposed to draw and hold, even when it feels like you’re the only adult in the room who cares.
I tried to be the teacher I never had—someone who listened, who joked, who made the classroom feel safe. But somewhere along the way, the boundaries blurred. Students started coming to me with things I wasn’t equipped to handle. Suddenly, I was their confidant, their therapist, their friend. And when I tried to pull back, it felt like betrayal—to them and to myself.
I go home and replay every conversation, every text, every moment I let the line slip. I’m not their friend. I’m not supposed to be. But I still feel the weight of their stories, and the guilt of shutting the door. No one tells you how much it costs to care this much, and still have to say, "No."
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