They asked to honeymoon at our place… and then asked for our bed
My husband and I live in a beautiful part of the world—coastal, scenic, the kind of place people honeymoon in. So when his younger brother and his fiancée asked if they could stay with us after their wedding to save money, we said yes without hesitation. We're happy to help.
We live in a modest two-bedroom home. Our guest room doubles as my home office, so when people stay over, we set up a high-quality air mattress in there. It's not luxurious, but it's clean, comfortable, and—most importantly—free.
Everything was fine… until last week.
That’s when my husband sat me down and said, “So… my brother asked if he and [his fiancée] could use our bedroom instead. For their honeymoon.”
I blinked. “You mean… sleep in our bed?”
“Yeah,” he said. “Because the air mattress ‘isn’t honeymoon appropriate.’”
Now look. I’m all for being generous. But I draw the line at giving up my own bed so that someone else can celebrate their wedding week in it. Let’s be real: this request is not about sleep. It's about… activities. Intimate ones. On my mattress. With my sheets. In the space I go to unwind at the end of every day.
I told my husband I wasn’t comfortable with it. He agreed. We said no—politely.
Cue the drama.
His sister is now chiming in, saying we should “just let them use the room, it’s their honeymoon.” Apparently, us saying “you’re still welcome to stay, but no, not in our bed” has been deemed selfish.
It’s frustrating. We opened our home. We’re offering a free place to stay in one of the most romantic places in the country. And now we’re being made to feel like bad hosts for having boundaries.
I still feel strongly about this. It’s not about being petty. It’s about privacy, respect, and honestly… hygiene. They’re adults. If a real bed is a must-have, there are budget hotels and honeymoon discounts for a reason. Expecting to honeymoon in someone else’s bed is not normal. It’s just not.
I left it at this: they’re still welcome to stay. We’re still happy to host. But our bedroom is off-limits. No hard feelings—but no swapping mattresses, either.
And yes, I will be washing all the guest linens. Twice.
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